Sometimes life gives you a moment of clarity so sharp, it stops you in your tracks. For me, that moment came today when I found myself apologizing to my womb. It might sound strange, but it felt like the most natural thing in the world. I realized how much I’ve ignored and misunderstood this part of myself, and it hit me how powerful, beautiful, and perfect it truly is.
A Personal Realization
As I sat with this feeling, something inside me shifted. I’ve spent years brushing off or even resenting the parts of me that make me uniquely feminine. I bought into ideas that made me feel like my cycles and emotions were flaws. But today, I saw it differently. I saw myself differently. For the first time, I felt the strength and wisdom in my body—especially in my womb—and it was humbling.
This realization didn’t come easy. Like a lot of women, I’ve carried around so much shame and disconnect from my own body. Some of it’s personal, but a lot of it feels bigger than me—like I’ve inherited it from generations of women before me. As a Black woman, that weight feels especially deep. But with that weight comes incredible strength, passed down from women who endured, who thrived, and who remind me that I can, too.
Facing the Lies We’ve Been Told
I couldn’t help but think about how we got here. For centuries, women’s power—our ability to create, to nurture, to heal—has been misunderstood and even feared. Society has tried to twist what’s natural about us into something negative. They tell us we’re “too emotional” or “unpredictable” because of the way our bodies work, as if being connected to the cycles of life itself is a bad thing.
But let’s get real for a second. Who’s really “unstable” here? The same systems that shamed us for our emotions are the ones driving this planet into chaos with war, greed, and violence. Meanwhile, women have been holding everything together, even while being told we’re not enough.
How This Disconnect Affects Us
All this shame and suppression comes at a cost. When we carry unspoken pain or live disconnected from our bodies, it can show up in our health. I believe so many of the reproductive health challenges women face today are tied to this—our bodies holding onto trauma we’ve inherited or lived through ourselves. It’s a heavy weight, and for a long time, I didn’t even realize I was carrying it.
Finding the Way Back
But here’s the thing: we’re waking up. More and more women are remembering who we are, including me. We’re learning to let go of the shame, to heal, and to reconnect with the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to ignore. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
For me, that’s looked like sitting still, listening to my body, and letting myself feel it all—the good, the painful, the healing. It’s about forgiving myself for the ways I’ve ignored my own needs and deciding to do better moving forward.
Let’s Do This Together
If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know you’re not alone. Whether you’re just starting to explore this or you’ve been on this journey for years, we’re all in this together.
So, here’s my invitation: take a moment today to check in with yourself. How connected do you feel to your body, your cycles, your emotions? No judgment—just notice. And if you feel ready, start to shift that connection. Little by little, we can heal.
We’re powerful, even when the world tries to convince us otherwise. Let’s embrace that power and keep moving forward, together.
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